Tenet One
Companioning is about being present to another person’s pain; it is not about taking away the pain.
Tenet Two
Companioning is about going to the wilderness of the soul with another human being; it is not about thinking you are responsible for finding the way out.
Tenet Three
Companioning is about honoring the spirit; it is not about focusing on the intellect.
Tenet Four
Companioning is about listening with the heart; it is not about analyzing with the head.
Tenet Five
Companioning is about bearing witness to the struggles of others; it is not about judging or directing these struggles.
Tenet Six
Companioning is about walking alongside; it is not about leading or being led.
Tenet Seven
Companioning is about discovering the gifts of sacred silence; it is not about filling up every moment with words.
Tenet Eight
Companioning is about being still; it is not about frantic movement forward.
Tenet Nine
Companioning is about respecting disorder and confusion; it is not about imposing order and logic.
Tenet Ten
Companioning is about learning from others; it is not about teaching them.
Tenet Eleven
Companioning is about compassionate curiosity; it is not about expertise.
Source: Companioning the Bereaved: A Soulful Guide for Caregivers, Alan E. Wolfelt, Ph.D.